...What is your interpretation of Love? To you is there a difference between "loving" someone or "being in love" with someone? Do you think that men and women have different views of both?
- I have been contemplating this theory for a while now, and it only comes from experience. I have only ever been told once in my life (not by my current boyfriend) from someone that they were "in love" with me. And that was someone that I did not feel the same way about. That got me thinking...to me, I think there is a HUGE difference. You can love and have love for many people for many different reasons but to be "truly in love" with someone takes so much more. You can have love for your dog, cat, aunt, uncle, mom, dad, brother, sister, best friends, friends, people in general, etc. But to experience the rare bliss of "being in love" with a significant other is completely rare.
Take a step back, and really think about relationships you've had in the past. In Middle School or High School most people will call that your "first love" or "puppy love" because that's where some get to experience their first loves. How many of those relationships stay forever? How many of them actually work out to where they end up getting married, have kids, or how many of them just vanish? How do you really know at such a young age you want to be with that person for the rest of your life? I'm not saying it doesn't happen, but I'm saying that it doesn't happen as often as it did maybe 50/60 years ago. I know of this one couple who have been together forever, I don't know them personally but from the outside looking in, they have been happy for the past 10 years. Met in high school (or maybe earlier), and started dating. Now they are engaged and are well on their way to their happy ending. I think that's the rare kind of puppy love that grows into something more.
Is it because you already know going into a relationship that you instantly want to be with that person for the rest of your life? If so, why do most people get divorced after a couple of years of being together? I was watching a documentary from Netflix the other day called "The Sexual Intelligence"... and also I saw another one called "The Science of Sex Appeal" - and they both gave me such a different outlook on life and human beings and why we are the way we are. Why we are not meant for monogamy, and why most relationships only last up to 4 years. I can' t really explain it all because there is so much information that would completely boggle your mind. The Science behind a human anatomy and brain is completely different on what you would think it would be. It also explained why unconsciously we pick the partners that we do. Why we are attracted to certain people and their features. It doesn't have a lot to do with just their looks but the points in their face, eyes, nose, ears, lips, cheek bones etc..
Then from there it goes on to say that's just the attraction part, then we go on (especially women) to judge a person's characteristics and lifestyles to see which person fits best with our requirements for an exceptable partner. I've always wonder why everyone's tastes in people are so different from one another. I don't believe everything that documentary had said but it did open my eyes up to a little bit more than what I've been told as a kid. I never knew how much science had to do with the world itself. Yes I might sound naive saying this Science was never one of my best subjects in school. Now that this is an interest for me I'm sure I will be judging science differently.
Wow completely going off on a rant.. back to the original subject...
Why I am writing about this is because I was just sitting here watching Private Practice, and the guy (I'm not sure what the character's name is) said to his girlfriend.. "I am in love with you, I love you, you have me, I am completely here for you"... Maybe it's just me or maybe people can just say those words out in the open like that without even thinking about how they have to say it.
All I ever wanted in my life was to have a love and relationship like my parents did. From my eyes they had the perfect relationship. They met through mutual friends and had the same goals in life. To have a big family and to be happy. They came here from Vietnam with nothing in their hands but the clothing on their backs and have gone through a lot of tragedies to get to where were. I only say where because my mother is no longer with us. My dad on the other hand is completely successful.
I put LOVE on such a pedistal only because from what I have seen in my parents eyes. My dad treated my mom like a princess. He appreciated everything that she did for him. He'd come home from a long day of work, and she'd have dinner on the table waiting for him. She was excited to see him when he got home. I don't want to tute my own horn but to me, we had the perfect family. I don't want a family or children but I'd like to share that kind of LOVE with man like my parents did. To have something so rare find you and to top it off with happiness, what else could you ask for?
I just hope one day I can find someone who thinks that I'm worth all of those things, and tells me so that I know everyday of my life, that I was their number one.
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